Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise,
trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be
calm in your heart.” – unknown
Letting go of Anger and Bitterness is healthy for both your
Physical and your mental health!
Here are 10 tips for starting to Let GO we reviewed in Group
today!!.We feel better already…now you
try.
1. Feel it fully. If you stifle your feelings, they may leak
out and affect everyone around you—not just the person who inspired your anger.
Before you can let go of any emotion you have to feel it fully.
2. Give yourself a rant window. Let yourself vent for a day
before confronting the person who troubled you. This may diffuse the hostility
and give you time to plan a rational confrontation.
3. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person
who upset you, and visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.
4. If possible, express your anger to the person who
offended you. Communicating how you feel may help you move on. Keep in mind
that you can’t control how to offender responds; you can only control how
clearly and kindly you express yourself.
5. Take responsibility. Many times when you’re angry, you
focus on what someone else did that was wrong—which essentially gives away your
power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel
empowered and less bitter.
6. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make
mistakes; and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband,
father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.
7. Metaphorically throw it away; i.e., jog with a backpack
full of tennis balls. After you’ve built up a bit of rush, toss the balls one
by one, labeling each as a part of your anger. (You’ll need to retrieve
these—litter angers the earth!)
8. Use a stress ball, and express your anger physically and
vocally when you use it. Make a scrunched up face or grunt. You may feel silly,
but this allows you to actually express what you’re feeling inside.
9. Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it
when you start obsessing on angry thoughts. This trains your mind to associate
that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.
10. Remind yourself these are your only three options:
remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. These acts create
happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.
Start with something small today...small change...big difference.
Resource: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/
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