Managing Fear ....So It Doesn’t Manage You

There's a little known secret about successful people. They have fear. They're sucessful because they’ve learned how to manage it. If allowed to roam free on its own accord, fear can really get in the way of being successful. Fear gets in the way of accomplishing your goals. It gets in the way of your intuition, a critical skill for making strong decisions. The more you manage your fear, the sooner you’ll accomplish your goals. It’s as simple as that.

    Raise your awareness.

    When I work with the clients the biggest culprit in managing fear is that they don’t even recognize that they’re fearful! It’s impossible to manage your fear if you don’t even know that its there. A powerful way to manage fear is to start by simply noticing when your fears are present. Knowing when they’re present gives you the opportunity to make a new choice.

    Accept it.

    Stop resisting. Stop beating yourself up for having fear. Accept that you have fears. Everyone has fear, even those who seem like they don’t. It’s important to our survival. Fear can tell us when to avoid a dangerous situation. It can also tell us when to proceed with caution. Obviously, we don’t want to get rid of something that can be so useful to us.

    But don’t argue with it.

    Trying to analyze or be rational with your fears will never work. It’s a bee’s nest that you don’t want to kick. Arguing with your fears is like arguing with a very good trial attorney. You’ll never win. Like attorneys, your fears are trained to win an argument. Truth be told, your fears are prepared to win at any cost. You won’t win, so don’t even try it. The best thing you can do is not to engage your fear in an argument.

    Put a limit on it.

    Don’t let it run wild at its own whimsy. Place a limit on how long you allow yourself to worry or be in fear. Let yourself really feel the fear. Then, put your attention on something else like how to conquer a challenge you’re facing or simply do something more pleasurable.

    Ask your intuition.

    Tapping into your intuition while in the midst of a fear attack may seem challenging, if not impossible. It is possible. If you can do it, you’ll learn how to manage your fears more easily. When stuck in fear, go for a walk or something physical. Then call on your intuition for answers.

    Remove yourself from people or situations that induce fear.

    Why put yourself in situations that only increase your fear? It may be a negative co-worker or someone who’s critical of your dreams. For me that’s means not watching the local evening news. The majority of the stories are about negative that involve, death, murder and mayhem. Discover what makes your fear worse and avoid it.

    Ask for help.

    If you’re really stuck in fear, it may be time to get outside help. Find others who have gone through a situation similar to the one you’re facing. Talk to a friend about your fears, rather than letting them bottle up inside you. You don’t have to go through it alone.

Get Busy

Find productive ways to distract yourself…exercise, complete small tasks, give boundaries.

Submitted by L.P.Sterling C.P.R.P.