Overcoming Barriers

Life is full of obstacles, however instead of worrying and stopping in your tracks because of these obstacles, you have to learn to overcome these obstacles and move on in life. So to help you to get beyond these obstacles, here are some tips that prove to be instrumental in this.
1. The first thing to remember is to learn to be part of a community. It is only if you have the capacity and know how to live together you can prosper in life. Though you may be a strong individual, most of your work has to be completed as a team. And to do this, you have to ensure, and teach your team members, network groups and other connections to learn to withstand elements and learn to overcome obstacles together.
Another point to remember is to never suffer from Impala Syndrome. The impala is an animal that can jump 10 feet high to land 30 feet from its jumping point. However impalas find it difficult to jump when surrounded by a three feet high fence, though it is much shorter than its capacity of jumping 10 feet high.
2. The Impala Syndrome implies that instead of concentrating on the obstacle in front of you, you have to concentrate on your individual capacity, and use it to the maximum. With this attitude in mind, you will be able to overcome any obstacle that you face.
3. Never expect opportunities to come to you; you have to look for opportunities, and know when to grab opportunities when it strikes you. Develop and use your creativity, courage and determination and you will pretty soon see opportunities around you.
4. Though you may not see what will happen in the future, it is better to be ready for anything. For example, you never know when your boss will make surprise visits to you, it is better for you to be ready for a visit by completing your work and assignments on time and as per specifications. This way you will be able to handle any situation, and this is what separates doers from wishers.
5. The last tip to remember to overcome obstacles is to remember that you can never reach your goal and overcome obstacles if you don’t start with whatever little inspiration you have. This inspiration may be a dream or a wish; but it is enough to give you the push to face any obstacle that you may encounter in life.
Once you realize how easy it is to overcome obstacles by following these five points, life proves to be more of a bed of roses than a bed of thorns.
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Submitted by L.P.Sterling C.P.R.P.

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Anger Mangement Tips

"Anybody can become angry - that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody"s power and is not easy."

- Aristotle

What is Anger?

Anger is a natural emotion. It's nature's way of telling us that something in our lives has gone haywire. Anger occurs as a defensive response to a perceived attack or threat to our well-being. In addition to psychological changes, like any emotion, anger is accompanied by physiological changes. When you get angry your adrenaline flows, your heart rate increases, and your blood pressure escalates. The phrase, "I'm so mad my blood is boiling" isn't that far from true when you fly into a rage!

Sometimes just our perception of a situation causes anger to ignite and sometimes the threat may be real. Whatever the case, anger isn't the problem. The problem with anger is that many of us don't learn to manage anger effectively. In fact, one out of five Americans has an anger management problem.

Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addictions are a few of the external examples of the results of poor anger management. Moreover, anger can lead to physical problems when not properly managed. Long-term anger has been linked to chronic headaches, sleep disorders, digestive problems, high blood pressure, and even heart attack.

Yet, when you learn how to manage anger, it can be an accelerant towards positive change instead of a negative propeller towards disaster.

The Sequence of Anger

Anger is usually "triggered" by an occurrence, like stubbing your toe on an inanimate object or by something that someone says. Next, you think something like "what did I do to deserve that". However, at this point, emotion takes over your mind and the "pain" of the situation leads you to believe the answer to your question is "Nothing. I didn't deserve that at all!" Feelings of hurt and betrayal further try to override logic and you're ready to act on your anger by either suppressing it or expressing it.

Suppressing your anger may lead you to believe you have it under control. However, suppressing anger doesn't solve your problem and is a dangerous type of anger management. Suppressed anger stays with you over time and can lead to mental health problems like depression, and physical problems like "stress" headaches and high blood pressure. Additionally, continually suppressing your anger can curtail your ability to act in the face of a real threat to your well-being.

Anger needs to be expressed. Yet, aggressive displays of anger can result in violent eruptions that further hurt you socially, mentally, and physically. The goal of anger management is to help you find healthy ways to express your anger and resolve the problems that ignite it. The first step in anger management is learning to define the problem and face it head on!

Anger Management Tips

    Find a safe spot. Yelling at friends or family members, slamming doors, and breaking crockery doesn't solve any problem and frequently escalates angry situations between people. Yet, sometimes you just need to vent. Finding a safe spot to act our your anger can relieve the majority of your stress, calming you enough to solve the real problem at hand. Go to a basement room and scream your head off! Take an empty jar to your basement and break it, (remember to sweep up when you're done). Stomp on a few aluminum cans. Throw a tennis ball at the garage wall. Buy a punching bag.

    Breath Deep. Anger often begins when we feel weaker than we really are. Molehills loom like mountains. Taking a few deep breaths calms you, makes you feel stronger both mentally and physically, and can cut those mountains down to size!

    Count to ten. Sounds simple, but counting to ten is an anger management tip that has worked for centuries! The Roman poet Horace (65 - 8 BCE) said, "When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, one hundred." Counting to ten (or one hundred) helps you to step back from the situation, buys time for you to examine the problem and decide on an effective, rational way to express your anger.

    Give yourself a break. It's easier to think when you're calm than when you're agitated. Leave the room, take a walk, 'whistle a happy tune'. Then come back to the problem, examine it, and solve it.

    Look for the sweet spot. Learn to act and not react. Although every cloud doesn't have a silver lining, when life hands you a lemon, you can make lemonade and when you get angry, you can find a positive way to express it!

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Managing Fear ....So It Doesn’t Manage You

There's a little known secret about successful people. They have fear. They're sucessful because they’ve learned how to manage it. If allowed to roam free on its own accord, fear can really get in the way of being successful. Fear gets in the way of accomplishing your goals. It gets in the way of your intuition, a critical skill for making strong decisions. The more you manage your fear, the sooner you’ll accomplish your goals. It’s as simple as that.

    Raise your awareness.

    When I work with the clients the biggest culprit in managing fear is that they don’t even recognize that they’re fearful! It’s impossible to manage your fear if you don’t even know that its there. A powerful way to manage fear is to start by simply noticing when your fears are present. Knowing when they’re present gives you the opportunity to make a new choice.

    Accept it.

    Stop resisting. Stop beating yourself up for having fear. Accept that you have fears. Everyone has fear, even those who seem like they don’t. It’s important to our survival. Fear can tell us when to avoid a dangerous situation. It can also tell us when to proceed with caution. Obviously, we don’t want to get rid of something that can be so useful to us.

    But don’t argue with it.

    Trying to analyze or be rational with your fears will never work. It’s a bee’s nest that you don’t want to kick. Arguing with your fears is like arguing with a very good trial attorney. You’ll never win. Like attorneys, your fears are trained to win an argument. Truth be told, your fears are prepared to win at any cost. You won’t win, so don’t even try it. The best thing you can do is not to engage your fear in an argument.

    Put a limit on it.

    Don’t let it run wild at its own whimsy. Place a limit on how long you allow yourself to worry or be in fear. Let yourself really feel the fear. Then, put your attention on something else like how to conquer a challenge you’re facing or simply do something more pleasurable.

    Ask your intuition.

    Tapping into your intuition while in the midst of a fear attack may seem challenging, if not impossible. It is possible. If you can do it, you’ll learn how to manage your fears more easily. When stuck in fear, go for a walk or something physical. Then call on your intuition for answers.

    Remove yourself from people or situations that induce fear.

    Why put yourself in situations that only increase your fear? It may be a negative co-worker or someone who’s critical of your dreams. For me that’s means not watching the local evening news. The majority of the stories are about negative that involve, death, murder and mayhem. Discover what makes your fear worse and avoid it.

    Ask for help.

    If you’re really stuck in fear, it may be time to get outside help. Find others who have gone through a situation similar to the one you’re facing. Talk to a friend about your fears, rather than letting them bottle up inside you. You don’t have to go through it alone.

Get Busy

Find productive ways to distract yourself…exercise, complete small tasks, give boundaries.

Submitted by L.P.Sterling C.P.R.P.